As I write this I imagine that there are people out there like me. There are people who have high aspirations and always seem to somehow fall short. Something outside of you comes up that takes away from your goal. Then something else happens that keeps you from going back to it. Little by little you get distracted and before you know it all your progress is lost. Then you have to start again. Fortunately that’s not you anymore, you decided to become self-disciplined. So that right there is not the hard part, the hard part is not giving in from the beginning. It’s hard because you had been sticking to your goals through out and you don’t mean to stray. Also it’s hard because everyone is telling you to binge and to give in, and everyone is also doing it. Needles to say it’s hard to stay on track when everyone is pulling you away from your goal to cut down on carbs, or stop drinking/smoking etc. What separates the disciplined from the undisciplined is the ability to stay on track despite distractions.
Now before you say “Hey this is the same as the previous post” I want to make it clear that I’m not talking about regression. I’m talking about when things other than your own emotional turmoil distract you, and how to deal with it. The holidays are coming up and it’s so easy to just allow yourself to use that as an excuse. This post is about those times when you mean well, and you’re sticking to your goals but other “opportunities” come up. I used quotes because to someone trying to cut down on carbs, Thanksgiving could be a great opportunity to break and give in. It’s so easy to say “It’s the holidays, I can give in a little bit”. To a certain extent this can be true, but know that you run the risk of diving too deep and making it harder for yourself to return to it after the holidays have passed.
In the road to self-discipline it is very important to maintain the achiever habits even as you allow yourself a little leeway. Remember to keep your goals in the back of your mind and balance that with spending time with the family. There is nothing wrong with spending time with friends and family and enjoying yourself, I mean, it is the holidays. The problem happens when days turn to weeks, and weeks turn to months. The old “It’s Thanksgiven, which is practically Christmas, and that’s just a few days from New Years”. Before you know it, half of November and all of December is gone and you’re left to start again January.
The way to prevent this is to set goals for yourself as to how much time you want to spend with the family, and how much time you want to spend working on your goals. Get a calendar and mark the days that you know you will spend with your family. This way you can see clearly the days that you must stick with your achiever habits and the days you will allow yourself some leeway. An example of this, Thanksgiving you stuff your face, which makes it easier for the next day to do the same with the left overs. Using the calendar will remind you of your plans and you will be less likely to indulge again. Also this time of year everyone is having Friendsgiving and other holiday parties so it is important that you prioritize. Figure out what is more important to you. Do you want to spend all night out drinking making it harder for your morning self to stay on track, or do you keep in mind your goals and stick to one drink.
I’ll leave you with this: Don’t allow yourself to use excuses, under the justification that you only get to binge once a year. You know you binge through out the year anyway, and that binging is just instant gratification. You will be a lot happier sticking to your goals in the long run. DON’T be like most people, because most people are not self-disciplined.